Hello again, Internet. Today’s piece may be a work of fiction but it speaks of real issues. Even when there are techniques of mind reform in place, any relationship of Dominance and submission must be based on mutual respect, on accepting each other’s boundaries. A submissive has a duty of obedience to the Dominant, but the Dominant also has a duty of care towards the submissive, in order to help him grow. I wrote “him” because I write about Female Dominance and male submission, but this is true about Male Dominants and female submissives as well.
Being submissive and obedient does not entail being a doormat and letting the Dominant do whatever she/he wants, unless that sort of dynamic has been established from the get-go. Some people yearn for that Total Power Exchange reality and that is perfectly valid if both individuals want that. Coercion techniques work fairly well in the context of fiction and reading and writing stuff like that can be hot as hell. Our mind is a powerful escape vehicle, imagining certain things can bring about a state of deliverance like no other.
Let’s be clear, though. Coercion is hot in fiction. In reality, it’s more complicated than that. Tricking someone into doing something they don’t want to do, manipulating feelings and emotions in order to break someone apart and then rebuild that person anew can have potentially devastating consequences. Brainwashing is very real, turning a person into shambles through various mind-shattering techniques is also very real, and it can constitute abuse. Abuse is the opposite of a healthy D/s relationship. Abuse is simply abuse, nothing more than that.
Sometimes, saying “no” is needed. Sometimes, saying “no” and making a stand is the only thing that will make sure a relationship stays strong. Like I said, being a doormat and having a submissive be a doormat only works in very specific situations, very specific dynamics. In the majority of them though, remembering to say “no” when it’s needed to do so doesn’t make a person a bad submissive. Standing one’s ground to ensure one’s safety and one’s limits doesn’t make a person a bad submissive. It is as unhealthy to promote abuse as it is to allow oneself to be abused. Always keep that in mind, please.
And with all of that out of the way, I give you a 55-words piece (title not included) that focuses on the subject at hand and ends with an uplifting note. Enjoy.
“No!” Bob declared.
“You don’t get to say ‘no’ to me,” Janice vociferated.
“I just did.”
“I can make you obey me… ” she threatened, the trigger word on the tip of her tongue.
“I know, but you won’t. You don’t want a doormat.”
“Damn right!” She smiled, happily.
He smiled too, and knelt to serve.